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Let's look at the Benefits of Abstinence:
- Clear conscience with God.
- Peace of mind in your life and future relationships, and marriage.
- More self-respect and more respect for each other and respected by other people.
- Always remember, in a healthy relationship, respect precedes love, and premarital sex only throws away your self respect and your partner's.
- You enter marriage with a more positive outlook and without carrying emotional baggage.
- Personal freedom for both of you and your (future) marriage partner.
- Significantly better chance in having more satisfying and more stable marriage.
- Longer lasting relationship. Premarital sex surprisingly breaks up more dating couples than any other factor.
- No comparing or being compared sexually in marriage. It also means "being free to enjoy maximum sex, maximum leisure, maximum satisfaction, and maximum liberty, in the way God intended" that is in the covenant of marriage.
- No worries about pregnancy and STDs.
- Less worries about bad reputation.
- It's a fact that persons and couples who have premarital sex are more likely to have extramarital affairs as well.
- Premarital sex often fools a person into marrying someone who really isn't right for them.
- You don't have to put yourself under someone else's mercy not to reject you. It's still a fact, that the more "experienced" guys and girls are generally less desirable and less respected as dating or marriage partners.
- Realize there is a 98 percent chance you will never marry the person you date in high school, so it is always better to keep yourself pure for the right person, that is your future wife or husband.
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ABSTINENCE & PURITY
Saying No with a Purpose
Let's understand what abstinence is and why it is so important. Abstinence is the voluntary, self-imposed, and deliberate denial of certain physical pleasures. In layman's terms and for our understanding....it means not having sex or sexual activity. A person who decides to practice abstinence has decided not to have sex.
Paul exhorted the church of the Thessalonians to "abstain from sexual immorality" (1 Thess. 4:3)
I. Corinthians 6:18-20 says: 18) Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. 19) Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, who you have received from God? You are not your own; 20) you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.
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Interesting Statistics to explore:
1. 72% of teen girls regret their decision to have sex and wish they had waited.
2. 92% of teens surveyed said a girl can get a bad reputation if she has sex.
3. One out of four sexually active teens gets a sexually transmitted disease every year.
4. 40% of teen girls will become pregnant at least once by the age of twenty.
5. 72% of teen mothers recieve late or no prenatal care. Babies born to teens are more likely to be low-birth-weight than are those born to women in their 20s and 30s.
Sources: Seventeen Magazine, National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancey, Census, FOF Report
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Abstinence - a poem
I will wait until the vow is made
before I let my chastity fade.
I save myself for the right girl,
the one that will wait for me.
It may take a while for the time to come
but that is the decision I chose to be.
I dream of that one day,
we will be united.
We both will enjoy the reward
for which we fighted.
This person is a challenge,
for whom I'll pay the cost.
Praying that she'll live only for me,
before she lets herself become lost.
I consider this ambition
an unclosed seal.
Whoever this promise is made for,
thank you for waiting for me to kneel.
Written By: T. Schulte
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